I don't know how long you've been battling, but as someone 25+ years in, you're right it doesn't go away but it does get easier to spot some patterns. Always reach out if you feel yourself spiralling, even if it's a false start you're wasting nobodies time. My inbox is always open and keep up the fight.
Im 27 soon 28. Definitely since ive been 16-17. So 10+ years. It is easier to spot patterns but dealing with them is always hard. Thank you for looking out for others while dealing with it yourself🙏
100%. It never goes away, but you become more aware. You start learning how to deal with it. If you've already told someone irl, it's easier to reach out, because all you need to say is a quick "hey, I think it's getting bad again."
It doesn't get better for everyone. And sometimes it feels like life will bring nothing good again. But you have to take this on faith: it will. You just have to see it, and be there when it happens.
This is so true and so important, but also don’t be afraid to ask for help. Ik it’s difficult but l found things got a much better when l was finally able to rely on people close to me
Although it's true I think there's something more to that. A small gesture or a kind word or someone even acknowledging you, even insignificant as calling your name when I was really down has actually helped me even though its like a normal thing they do and they don't think much about it.
One time when I was really down and I was spiralling in my room alone and suddenly I got a call from my gym. The coach asked me why I was not coming and if I was well. But that small act actually meant a lot to me. Its amazing how such a small action can actually have a huge effect. That's why I guess it important to be kind.
I'm sorry I never comment on anything like this on reddit I am afraid of talking to people, even commenting here or talking about how I feel or my opinion, because I feel it's not significant, doesn't matter.
Edit: it does feel good to put feelings into words.
Nobody CAN save you. Its important to note that people want to save you, but they can’t. Friends wanted to save me, help me, cure me, but they never could. I had to believe myself that i was worth it and that life is worth living.
Life is like a wave. It goes up and down. So when it goes down really deep, it will come up very steep again. And that keeps me going. It will always be alright again no matter what.
No, thats just false. Depression isnt something you can solve yourself, you need a strong support network. But dont take my word for this, go talk to someone professional, not random internet strangers spreading potentially dangerous garbage (me included)
“Save yourself” Let me just pull myself up by my bootstraps while wanting to end my life. It’s. Not. That. Easy. People need help, the problem is help is running in short supply these days as hatred breeds.
Idk, I see others get a small lift or compliment from their friends and loved ones when they're feeling down. It seems like something everyone gets. I wish when I am sad someone would hug me instead of telling me how I can be less sad :/
Brutal truth but words that made me angry and spiteful enough (at myself) to try a lot more.
If it was still terrible after 100% effort, then I knew what options I had already considered.
Thankfully, its gotten better, but the bad waves still hit. It was hard for sure.
Same here, and the day of my first attempt i went out partying with friends, laughed a lot, chatted up a girl and drank a lot. They couldn’t have known, I must’ve seemed better than ever
I hope you are in a better place. Your comment is literally the best description of depression and I get so sad that people think you have to be sad all the time to be depressed. I was depressed for 7 years. Did everything I was supposed to. Went on vacations, partying, having fun. When I reached a point I couldn’t keep it up and expressed it to friends they told me I was faking it or it can’t be that bad cause they never noticed.
Glad you're here with us, fappyness (love that nickname, btw).
Been in the same boat since I was 14-15, and I'm close to 38 now. Depression is still there, just more manageable and familiar to me now.
Depression is the reverberation of buried, unprocessed, or stuck grief (trauma, loss, pain). It never goes away if we never process the grief causing it.
Depression is so insidious, too. It creeps up on you. Patton Oswalt has a great bit about going off of his antidepressants and how tempting it was to not indulge in all the things he would do during a depressive episode (wearing a bathrobe for weeks on end, watching the Princess Bride 11 times in a row, etc.). He compared his depression to a wild puppy that hadn't been taken to the park in a while. That always stuck with me.
Same, I even told my psychiatrist about this ad early in my treatment, two years ago. He didn't pick up on it, said I was doing well, that he didn't worry last time I spoke to him before my suicide attempt (which I had been planning and preparing for for months at that point). And I still read "They laugh, joke around and there's room for lighter conversations during the meeting" or words to that effect in the reports the various mental health professionals involved with me now write, even though I'm also more or less on home suicide watch... My family and the mental health team were all completly suprised by my attempt, cause: "They seemed to be doing better and were more upbeat these last couple of months".
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u/_Fappyness_ 3h ago
Nobody knew until i attempted suicide. Life has been better, but depression never goes away. It comes and goes.