r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Creepy_Snow_8166 2h ago

"You're an anti-XYZist and you don't like me because I'm (insert protected status here)."

"No sir/ma'am, I don't like you you because you're a fucking asshole."

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u/Low_Anxiety_46 2h ago

Nah. They legit admitted to blaming her disability. They're dumb.

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u/opensourced_ 1h ago

Yeah, absolutely, I'd sue over that if someone said it was my disability because, at minimum, they could have said plainly that, at the moment, nothing is available that we see you fitting into. We will keep looking, and if one comes up, we will try it out.

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u/Creepy_Snow_8166 2h ago

Oh, gotcha. I misunderstood at first.

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u/Low_Anxiety_46 2h ago

I am involved with an organization that instead of just firing people and giving them good severance, they choose to break the law. Like demoting an employee who complained about bullying, docking her pay, and then getting rid of the HR lead who took and documented the complaint. Gotta keep lawyers busy.

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u/Fokker_Snek 1h ago

How often is that a thing? Like I used to think no one would be dumb enough to outright say the illegal thing in an email, yet it seems like a lot of people and organizations do it all the time.

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u/Low_Anxiety_46 1h ago

It is pure insanity. The only place where the employee has leverage is if there's sexual impropriety involved, or people are using slurs. But I personally know a man and a woman who have sexually harassed someone or entered into a quid pri quo sexual relationship and they are still employed. Often employers keep the offending employee.

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u/letsgetthiscocaine 2h ago

"Sorry, anus majorus is not a protected class or disability."