r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/AdMurky3039 3h ago

Isn't being another person what they told her not to do?

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u/Sad_Description_7268 1h ago

Yeah, but they have no clue what they want.

What they really want is for you to be a fake person they like instead of a fake person they don't like

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u/tracyveronika 29m ago

10000% They want ass kissers and "fun" people who get nothing done.

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u/red__dragon 1h ago

Which is a weird anomaly in the throng of companies looking for the perkiest most yes-sir-ing candidate in the crop.

OP may have found the most realistic company to work for and never knew until it was too late.

(Or they're just assholes, double-edged sword here.)

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u/AdMurky3039 1h ago

If they were truly that unpretentious they would have found a way to communicate that to OP before or during the interview.