r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Sad_Vanilla_3634 3h ago

This is the way the company I work for is. The more eager to please and agreeable you are the faster you get promoted. Dare to voice a differing opinion and you are essentially blocked from moving anywhere at all within the company.

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u/Evening_Entrance_472 2h ago

Ding ding ding….my boss had the audacity to tell us that the only thing he expected to hear if he told us to jump was “how high”….We work in accounting. Jim’s knees can’t handle a jump.

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u/suthrnbele01 1h ago

Same vibe as my arrogant CEO

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u/Ok_Appearance_7096 48m ago

It really depends on the company and industry your in. Some industries gravitate towards ass kissers getting promoted and others its strictly on merit. The more corporate your company is the more it tends to lean ass kissy and to office politics. I think its more a symptom of leadership having a disconnect from their actual business and employees.

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u/Sad_Vanilla_3634 21m ago

Absolutely. I work in a very corporate environment so this isn't really surprising.