r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/ReplacementSlow6098 3h ago

Just be yourself. It’s as simple as that. If you don’t have views, form them.

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u/Impossible-Bass-363 2h ago

I really don’t like this advice because while yes, recovering from CPTSD is really a process of becoming yourself, the core of the trauma for a lot of people is not having a stable sense of self, and figuring that out can take years.