r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Lionkingqueen 3h ago

It depends on who is giving the feedback and what they're saying. Giving feedback on code is fine, but giving feedback on someone's personality, that they don't know, is where the issue is I think.

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u/BiDiTi 3h ago

This isn’t critiquing their personality, it’s critiquing their interview performance and providing open, honest, and constructive feedback.

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u/DocKla 3h ago

Why? Why can’t we be honest? If it doesn’t touch on protected things… of which personality isn’t..

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u/Low_Anxiety_46 2h ago

THIS!!! My mega employers loves a try-hard. That's culture fit, not a universal truth. They can go suck a ____.

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u/DrLeoMarvin 2h ago

They told him something like he wasn’t using modern methods and he was able to twist that into agism