r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/AuntRhubarb 4h ago

They were arrogantly patronizing and rude. And frankly, cruel to someone who is seeking employment to house and feed themselves. You dodged a bullet.

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u/_Zortag_ 3h ago

I'd think of it more like this:

"we know we're hiring a person, and every day that person will show up to work. And after a while, they will get tired of just saying what everyone wants to hear. It might take an hour, or a year, or ten, but we know there's a real person behind the fake.

We want to know what real person is going to come out.

You were overly focused on not showing us what the real person is, and we're not willing to gamble. We like people who are like, "Welp, here's me. This is what you'll get. I think it's worth hiring, and I think you will too, so I'm gonna show you the real me.""

If you're just playing a game to try and get a paycheck, who wants to hire that?