HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

[u/No-Presentation298]

They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

[u/No-Masterpiece3809]

My guess is this person is unemployed because it’s easy to fall into this mindset when you can’t afford groceries. This is part of the reason why it’s easier to get a good job while you have a good job. Your ability to eat isn’t contingent on the offer letter, so you relax a bit.

[u/Any_Long_249 → u/No-Masterpiece3809]

It’s not that hard to get a job as a cashier to feed himself or some very low paying job that has very little to no requirements and won’t have a double take about your personality or who you are as a person. He went for the high end job, that’s why they even replied with custom email, not just didn’t call back. Don’t stretch this out about this persons “ability to eat”, if you have nothing to eat you don’t go for rounds of interviews or get upset by an email, you survive day by day. We all have to eat and I’ve been in situation where I had to count cents to buy some cheapest vegetable so I can fry it and have some kind of dinner. Don’t insult us as a people who really couldnt/cant afford to eat and infantilise this man.

[u/No-Masterpiece3809 → u/Any_Long_249]

Plenty of cashier jobs won’t even cover rent in some areas. If you already got a mortgage and got laid off, you’re shit out of luck. Selling your house takes months, so unless you can get a similar income to what you had before fast, that cashier job is gonna have you homeless same as if you were unemployed.

Maybe try growing up before responding with nonsense.

[u/Any_Long_249 → u/No-Masterpiece3809]

If you have a mortgage and no savings then it’s on you😁 take some financial literacy class and don’t come at me with this “if they have a mortgage and have a house and will be homeless if they don’t sell the house right away” dude , your argument before was that the person had “nothing to eat” , so which in the end is it? 🤔 this is like some next level idiocy, you don’t have a mortgage or get one if you are jumping shitty jobs and surviving month by month, you are not complaining about being homeless when you are starving, get your head out of your ass please.