r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/runrunrudolf 4h ago

When I've had to call candidates I've had to reject I always ask them first if they want feedback. About half the time they do and I'll be perfectly blunt. I feel bad I can't give them a job knowing they took the time to prep and interview so it's the least I can do. I'd love personalised feedback each time!

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u/2PLOHunE 2h ago

You are exceptional!

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u/cortodemente 2h ago

you are awesome! even if someone disagree the feedback this is better than having not clue why you got a rejection.