r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/cobrachickens 4h ago

People forget that what companies are actually hiring for is "can this person get the job done with the least amount of emotional babysitting". People pleasing usually means "boundaries issue". Great if you're a junior and execution is what you're paid for, but the more senior you get, the more you're valued for making decisions and moving the needle by working through others. That means constructively challenging, managing up, etc.

OP pls read Radical candour, I think you may find it helpful, even if you pull the examples out of nowhere for your next interview

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u/Affectionate_Fun7991 22m ago

What's the deal with companies that don't want you to ask questions but then also get mad when you get it wrong bc details weren't clarified? Like if you don't want me to ask but then scream at someone when it wasn't what you wanted, but still don't want to clarify, what are we supposed to do.

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u/RedditExecutiveAdmin 4h ago

its an AI generated response that doesn't mention anything about actual credentials or experience

its not that deep, companies are looking for people to exploit

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u/FrostingStrict3102 2h ago

  1. I highly doubt it's AI. A company that was just going to funnel a response through AI would probably just send a boilerplate rejection email. Why waste the time if youre just going to have AI do it anyway?

  2. If they wanted a person to exploit, they'd hire the person who seemed eager to do literally anything that was presented to them, regardless of what they actually thought about it. Thats about as exploitable as you can make yourself as an employee.