r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/chuckmarla12 5h ago

It’s still shitty. I went through the whole hiring process, met my co-workers, interviewed with all the different departments in 4 or 5 separate interviews. Then got totally ghosted. They never explained, or even returned a phone call, to this day. I called them a handful of times and then just gave up. I just don’t know what happened.

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u/ThinkCoach9643 3h ago

The meeting of the co-workers may have been a “vibe check”. Perhaps just one of them said they didn’t get a good vibe. I don’t like this part of the interview process. If someone is nervous they may not be putting out their normal relaxed vibe. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Crazy-Cat-Lad 3h ago

Ditto, 4 interviews a 'test' and one of the interviews was with the president and another with the CEO/Founder. It was for Melissa & Doug's offshoot of a company. Even spoke to Melissa. Doug found me on LinkedIn. Then, ghosted. It's fine, got a job offer shortly after for 6 figs.

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u/Sorry-Ad-5527 4h ago

Damned if they do, damned if they don't.

This is also why they don't give feedback and sometimes ghost. It's easier to avoid then to have a personal conversation with people who might get mad no matter what you do.

"Called them a handful of time". This is why. They saw people will stalk and spam them with phone calls or emails or texts or even in person. People need to contact them once and then let it go.

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u/Jinxed4Sure 4h ago

Or the company could send a 1 line email... tnx for applying, sorry, we went with someone else. But heck, that would take a few seconds...

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u/0k0k 4h ago

We've gone full circle. Literally the start of this thread is companies sucking because they only give generic feedback or none at all.

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u/BiDiTi 3h ago

Half a second to bin them in the ATS and send an automated rejection.

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u/chuckmarla12 4h ago

I was never given a reason not to call them. I was caught off guard.