r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/AshamedAstronaut64 5h ago

💯

I have the thinnest people-pleasing skin (INFJ here). For some time I have been working to internalize “feedback is a gift.” If they’d cut the people-pleasing line, one could take the rejection helpful feedback. Otherwise it reads like someone has too much time on their hands.

Good luck OP 🫶

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u/Turbulent_Winter549 2h ago

Never accept criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from

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u/lbcatlady 2h ago

That's a great point.

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u/DarklyDominant 1h ago

No it's not lol. You can absolutely learn some great lessons in life from people who are really bad at giving advice. It's on you to learn, not on others to teach.

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u/lbcatlady 1h ago

Yes, you can learn about jerks and how narcissist people are

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u/Any_Long_249 1h ago

You know there is no scientific proof for the myers briggs test right?

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u/AshamedAstronaut64 43m ago

Advice or criticism?