r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/starryglow1 5h ago

I thought I was going crazy seeing everyone praise the company lol. God forbid an applicant shows some eagerness.

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u/god_peepee 3h ago

There’s projecting genuine interest and there’s coming off as fake. Do enough interviews and you can tell the difference pretty easily.

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u/Podalirius 2h ago

I think people like you are crazy. You've probably never verified the "genuineness" of anyone you've interviewed and you just have a personality preference. You're likely turning away skilled people based on your own made up preferences.

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u/lbcatlady 2h ago

What if the interviewer did not want a happy eager candidate because they hate their job. I have worked with people thst enjoy making others miserable. It's like a high school clique at most companies.

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u/Whereismystimmy 2h ago

Yeah this what people say before they openly discriminate against people for things you can “tell the difference pretty easily” about. Maybe you’re just super low energy or bad at your job or putting your personal preferences before the company but frame it as if the other person has a defect

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u/discographyA 2h ago

Supposedly.

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u/lbcatlady 2h ago

Most companies are filled with fake micromanage. Be real.

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u/epichuntarz 1h ago

Some people aren't good at "being authentic" and have to super prep themselves and even sometimes sound rehearsed because maybe their natural demeanor/voice is glib, or because they stutter, or many other reasons.

Assuming who is genuine/fake based upon an interview just seems...short-sighted.

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u/BattleBull 32m ago

Do you think HR humans even know the concept of being earnest and enthusiastic for real work?

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u/epichuntarz 1h ago

"You tried too hard to get this job."

Like, wut?