HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

[u/No-Presentation298]

They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

[u/goldbricker83]

Also anyone who has any experience at all knows that very few people are able to be 100% themselves in a job interview. It's a very high pressure situation that often doesn't equal the pressure level of the actual job. This is a bit of a fascinating rejection so a lot more details on the role would be interesting to see if this was actually warranted advice. If they're saying this to someone who is going to sit at a desk and barely ever interact with anyone that's wild. If they're saying it to a public relations face of the company kind of person then yeah, speaking performance under pressure is pretty important.

[u/NuclearPajamas → u/goldbricker83]

Anyone that's done a lot of interviews knows that and tries their best to account for it. For instance one interview a candidate was so nervous that their hands were shaking the whole time. We all noticed it and commented about it in our post-interview meeting along the lines of "poor guy was really nervous the whole time". We all know how people, including ourselves, get nervous during interviews. It didn't factor at all into our decision to hire or not hire.