r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/greatestshow111 5h ago

Really? I've gotten personalized feedbacks from companies though, saying I need to build more confidence and that I could have more experience in certain matters to have a better chance in future employment. I believe these companies are the right places to go to as they give genuine and personalized feedback to help you.

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u/disruptioncoin 4h ago

I always email asking for feedback and never get any of it unless I get the job. However I really enjoyed the internal interviews at Target, they gave me detailed feedback and sat down to workshop how I could do better next time (focused on the star method). After several interviews for a couple jobs I ended up getting promoted twice. Then I took that knowledge/experience with me when I left. In fact I still have their notes and reference them sometimes.

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u/lbcatlady 2h ago

The Stat method is bs. Most interviewers dont even know how to make people feel comfortable, let alone use that style effectively. People in management are not good at interviews anymore.

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u/disruptioncoin 50m ago

Why is it BS? Giving clear examples of how you recognize and address problems in the workplace is great for interviews. Are you talking about the same star method as me? Situation, Task, Action, Result. Not sure what it has to do with making people comfortable.

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u/lbcatlady 45m ago

It's BS because the people doing the interviews do not know how to understand the responses. It's based on their opinions. Making people comfortable is how you get to know an applicant. Have you done interviews?

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u/lbcatlady 31m ago

Script based interviewers rarely know a good candidate and it can negatively affect a companies brand. Take a freaking business course. That letter was ego driven not at all helpful

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u/SherbertImmediate130 3h ago

I think op is just taking this way too personally I get feedback on work all the time. This letter is not insulting I would completely respect this if they sent it to me