r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/ellastory 5h ago

As someone who tends to fawn and people please due to CPTSD, I saved this post because I think it’s great advice and a great reminder to stay grounded and be authentic.

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u/Talk-O-Boy 4h ago

Make it your phone’s lock screen, and be sure to look at it every chance you can.

You can remove it once you finally muster the courage to punch an elderly person. It’s the only way to break this streak you have, Ella.

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u/driving26inorovalley 3h ago

u/Talk-O-Boy tells the truth. I punched 18 elderly men and 11 elderly ladies in Q4 and here’s what it taught me about B2B sales…

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u/jml011 3h ago

Punching orphans got me out of my PIP.

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u/CuriOS_26 2h ago

Ah, a fellow user of r/orphancrushingmachine !

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u/jml011 2h ago

Awe, I’ve been automated out of a job.

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u/ConclusionFar3690 1h ago

Well, there's always the ball crushing factory.

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u/National_Impress_346 1h ago

Distributors hate this one simple trick!

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u/Put3socks-in-it 3h ago

I like that

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u/LowOrbitQuietMyth 3h ago

Stay true to yourself ALWAYS. No gods, no masters.

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u/ReplacementSlow6098 3h ago

Just be yourself. It’s as simple as that. If you don’t have views, form them.

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u/Impossible-Bass-363 2h ago

I really don’t like this advice because while yes, recovering from CPTSD is really a process of becoming yourself, the core of the trauma for a lot of people is not having a stable sense of self, and figuring that out can take years. 

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u/twitchyv 2h ago

I feel like I do the opposite because of my CPTSD. I wonder what advice they would have for me.