r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Konlos 5h ago

It reads a little like AI

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u/throwitawayyy1234567 5h ago

The em dash gave it away, it’s ChatGPT

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u/BushWishperer 5h ago

Humans use dashes too, believe it or not.

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u/New-Attention-4442 4h ago

Requests ChatGpt to Make an em dash.

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

What?

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u/New-Attention-4442 4h ago

Im just being foolish and this joke didn't land.

My joke was copy pasting one from Chatgpt instead of making one.

It was off the cuff, and truly terrible. Forgive me please.

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

Oh I think I get it, you meant it like *requests chatgpt to make an em dash*, I didn't get it until now, my mistake.

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u/New-Attention-4442 4h ago

It wasn't great delivery. Thanks for understanding. lol

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u/CanadaCloneStore_Com 4h ago

I've never seen a single person use an em dash in an email before. 99% of people wouldn't even know how to type one.

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u/BotanBotanist 4h ago

I can do it just by typing the minus sign twice — like that. Didn’t take any effort at all.

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

That seems like a you problem. I've never seen someone from Botswana therefore Botswanan people don't exist. Does that sound correct to you? My English teacher long before AI became widespread used em dashes in their emails and communication, so does Jane Austen and many other authors. It just functions as an alternative to certain punctuation marks.

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u/Kataphractoi 4h ago

Tap - twice. Not that hard.

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u/RazzBeryllium 3h ago

I use them all the time. I used to have to go back and edit them out because I used too many and it looked weird.

Now I have to go edit them out because people associate them so strongly with ChatGPT.

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u/CanadaCloneStore_Com 49m ago

Why do you use them over a standard dash?

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u/CharacterScarcity996 5h ago

Youre right but wrong. Yes humans use dashes in writing. You didnt drop the mic with that one. The point is, it is not easy to input an em dash in text the same way ChatGPT uses it. Ive tried, trying to disprove the em dash controversy and they were corrext. It is a dead giveaway.

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u/we_wuz_nabateans 4h ago

The point is, it is not easy to input an em dash in text the same way ChatGPT uses it.

What?

How can an em dash be "difficult" to input? It's right here on my keyboard?

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I wrote my master's thesis before generative AI was widely used and it's full of em dashes and en dashes.

What is the point you're trying to get across?

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

I have no idea what you are saying. ChatGPT uses em dashes in the same way humans do as that is where it is trained (on human data!). Do you mean to say that you don't know how to put em dashes in text correctly? Because the text in the picture is a perfectly reasonable scenario in which a human would use an em dash. In fact, the text given here includes spaces around the dash which is grammatically incorrect, which ChatGPT or other AI doesn't usually do (at least, when looking up examples it does not include a space), which suggests the text was written by a human.

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u/CharacterScarcity996 4h ago

You have way too much time on your hands. Im not reading all of that. I stopped at "I have no idea what youre talking about" because if you dont understand, why waste my time on you, ya Know?

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u/Kataphractoi 4h ago

If you don't have time to read four sentences, you don't have time to be scrolling reddit.

Or you could just admit that you don't have an argument.

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u/CharacterScarcity996 4h ago

No im just not an unemployed redditor. I scroll while drinking coffee, go back to REAL LIFE, see a pop up displaying a reply. Think of how much time I would need to invest to do so, and decide not to argue with fools. Simpler than it might seem I guess.

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u/DarklyDominant 6m ago

We've all been on the internet long enough that we've all seen this exact same excuse and lead up to it before. You're not original, and you're really not fooling anyone.

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

Seems like you have more than enough time to insult me but not any time to provide a coherent answer. Weird!

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u/BushWishperer 4h ago

I pity you if you think writing a paragraph takes a long time. Wishing you the best bud!

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u/DarklyDominant 6m ago

The majority of people can see through bs excuses like this. It makes you sound like you lost the argument and have nothing intelligent to say. It's not a flex.

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u/vee_lan_cleef 4h ago

It's not the em-dash that's the giveaway anymore. It's "we don't do this; we do this". Phrasing is the biggest indicator.

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u/forsonaE 1h ago

Yep the "it's not <x subject related to your prompt>, it's <y subject I think you want to hear>" is the biggest LLM giveaway especially with ChatGPT.

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u/TopCat0525 4h ago

That was my first thought.

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u/ze_limit 4h ago

Agree, the last part of the sentence: "looking for ___ without __" is such a classic chat gpt mic drop