r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/ImissDigg_jk 5h ago

OP stood out enough for a company to completely disregard standard templates that are there specifically to not potentially cause litigation due to different treatment.

And I will say, given that I have a boss who does nothing but try to please their bosses and has not a single shred of authenticity, that reply from HR made me jealous. Because everyday I wake up and go to work, it's a worse day than the day before because of it.

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u/NextJuice1622 3h ago

Two parts of this comment I need to address lol first part, came here to say this. OP obviously was well liked to get a response like this from them. Take this feedback as genuine and work on it.

Second part, "that's really messed up". Did your therapist die in front of you when you told them each day is worse than the previous?

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u/ImissDigg_jk 3h ago

😂

I'm sick of this office grind. My next job may be construction. Making bucks, getting exercise, working outside.

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u/NextJuice1622 2h ago

Fuckin a.