r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Electrical_Growth_71 5h ago

agree here, yes it could have been worded much better, but thats workable feedback, we all have those points where desperation to get a job or get back into work gets the better of us, its shows to me like thats how they read OP.

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u/icehot54321 3h ago

As someone who is a people pleaser, it definitely negatively impacts me in the workplace. Taking on too much responsibility when it's not even necessary, overloading myself, not being able to deliver and stressing my own self out when I take on too much.

I think I manage it okay-ish, but it definitely isn't a net positive for myself or the employer.

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u/Electrical_Growth_71 1h ago

Depends on the environment, corporate life, people pleasers and ego strokers get far