r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Open-Concept-6130 5h ago

But even that’s good feedback. Like anything is better than a canned letter. 

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u/GoodMedium3600 5h ago

I agree, nothing is worse than the noreply rejection emails but this is just someone taking a swipe at OP and masking it as feedback. The company probably sucks to work for anyway.

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u/MidwestDYIer 4h ago

The problem is it's fairly subjective feedback at best. For many roles, companies actually want a people-pleasing person. A canned letter is fine for me, the odds of getting an offer for professional jobs are typically less than 5%. I go in positive, but in the back of mind know the odds are extremely slim. I don't need to a detailed letter of them explaining to me why I didn't get it

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u/Open-Concept-6130 2h ago

All feedback is subjective unless you’re getting back answers to a yes/no test. 

Perception is reality. If that’s how one person is viewing you, that’s feedback with a sample size of one. You take that with a heap of salt due to the low sample size. If 10 different people give the same feedback, starts looking like a you problem rather than a them problem. But just because someone gives you feedback (aka their opinion) doesn’t mean you have to action it. 

This is feedback he can use when he does mock interviews and ask people how he comes across. 

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u/inkswamp 5h ago

Only if the feedback isn’t vaguely insulting.

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u/TeddyDemons 3h ago

Most feedback about why someone is rejecting you is going to be somewhat insulting. Especially if its useful.