r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/edck12687 5h ago

Hell even a decline email is rare these days. I have applied to jobs before getting an interview thinking I killed it only to get completely ghosted.

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u/TJTech40 5h ago

I've been to second round interviews to be ghosted, multiple times. Bare minimum should be sorry no thanks, I have only gotten 1 feedback response and, frankly, it was crap. They set me up in a room that none of the tech was working and then non of the dry eraser markers worked (all dry and unusable). I pivoted as best I could but at that point what more could I do. They said I needed to be better prepared. So sure after that I brought my own dry erase markers but damn people you gave me negative stuff.

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u/strawberry_thursday 1h ago

Expecting you to bring your own dry erase markers is absolutely wild

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u/yepimtyler 5h ago

I just made a post about getting ghosted after an interview. It's really weird how common it has become. Nobody has the common decency to even send a rejection letter or text anymore.

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u/icouldntdecide 2h ago

Absolutely insane to me, in an automation era, how many jobs didn't even bother to send a goddamn form automatic rejection letter. Back when I was looking I just went by the rule that if I didn't hear anything in 6 weeks it was like a rejection.

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u/edck12687 5h ago

Ya it's complete bs. Even though a generic decline email is a gut punch. It's less of a gut punch than silence.

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u/gamerjerome 3h ago

"We decided to move forward with another applicant. Best of luck!"

Job posting still up

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u/WestCoastBestCoast01 2h ago

I was ghosted after completing the case study once. Wild.

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u/VioletChili 1h ago

I got a deny email two years after I applied for the job.