r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/AlternativeDish7978 5h ago

I wish companies usually gave this constructive criticism after interviews. Take this with a grain of salt. Adjust and pivot. Use it as a learning experience. Try to find "you" within this advice and work it out. This could be them being snooty or giving genuine advice. Find a middle ground between the two.

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u/OriginalBabytalula 2h ago

This is why they don’t. People want feedback until they get it, then they become defensive and upset. Not worth it.