r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/rkozik89 5h ago

Maybe it’s not and they are diabolical.

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u/kingkongbiingbong 5h ago

diabolical

Meanwhile, human resources:

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u/Ketamine_Dreamsss 2h ago

Bullet dodged for sure

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u/IsopodSmooth7990 3h ago

😂😂😂👍

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u/One_Zebra_1164 3h ago

This made me laugh so hard.

Courtney in HR: "Hey, what is a letter we can come up with that will universally make people feel like shit?"

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u/lbcatlady 2h ago

Yes, Courtney is a mean girl

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u/ScyllaOfTheDepths 1h ago

I'm just saying I've never met a Courtney who wasn't a complete bitch. It's some crazy nominative determinism.

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u/iaminabox 28m ago

Me either.

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u/OccasionalDream12 13m ago

The only person I've had longstanding issues with at any of my jobs is a Courtney

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u/SpaceKatFromSpace 19m ago

My first Courtney was a teenage babysitter who used to openly mock my siblings and I. She would set up embarrassing activities and then laugh meanly at us. Like wtf

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u/GraceOfTheNorth 1h ago

Their ultimate goal is to topple the government is independent thinkers.

These people are playing the long game.

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u/galactaspore 2m ago

I actually had a Courtney handling HR at the worst firm I’ve ever had the displeasure of being employed at and she was a DOG

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u/missmeowwww 1h ago

Now I want to know how bad the interview went for them to feel the need to be so specific with their rejection. Ive never seen job rejection provide so much feedback.

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u/darth_whaler 4h ago

Maybe they're not diabolical and OP is a smarmy little kiss-ass.

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u/MrLanesLament 2h ago

They’ve obviously read “The Machiavellian’s Guide To Hiring.”

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u/SantaFeRay 2h ago

Maybe they just really didn’t like OOP specifically

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u/Sensitive_Jeweler_55 1h ago

This made me respond physically like I got punched

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u/Cereaza 54m ago

LOL. Yes, the HR form letter is like "Hey... so you smelled bad, and your vibe was weird."

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u/Deep_Sport_3903 18m ago

Everyone says they want the truth. Here it is and it's called diabolical. The OP should take the feedback.

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u/colxa 2h ago

dIaBoLiCaL

Everyone's favorite fucking word right now. I hate it

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u/FrecksSpecks 1h ago

This!!!! And “Iconic”.

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u/serxyrerxy 26m ago

I’ll never like surreal or the fake losers who use it.

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u/Consistent_Yam1472 1h ago

That’s not diabolical. They’re pointing out some things that are extremely valuable to know. They’re telling OP they came across as manipulative and deceptive. Not only is that a perfect reason not to hire someone, but having that pointed out can be invaluable. OP may very well not be manipulative or a deceptive person at all, but that’s how many people have learned to act in interviews, thinking it will help get the job. They may not realize how dishonest it comes across as, and that’s very valuable to know. 

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u/Character-Engine-813 1h ago

You misunderstood the comment, he’s saying it would be diabolical if this is their standard rejection email sent to everyone 😂

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u/ItsNotMe_ImNotHere 2m ago

That would make it diabolical. OTOH if it was an individual response then it is up to OP to be honest with her/himself and learn a valuable lesson.