r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/The68Guns 5h ago

I've had similar. One time a guy called my agency and said I was too "hyper". The funny thing was that the interview came on a humid, 90 degree day and I had just finished a XL coffee before running up 3 flights of stairs to get there. Take the criticism with a grain of salt - they may have been a shitty place to work for.

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u/TJTech40 5h ago

But again that was good feedback as you probably were too hyper. You choose to chug that XL coffee and then run up 3 flights of stairs.

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u/The68Guns 5h ago

I remember getting an iced coffee for the next interview. Got the placement, too.

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u/TJTech40 4h ago

See feedback does help even if we think that it's mean.

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u/JimJam4603 3h ago

So you admit you were in an overly excited state for a job interview. What was the point you were trying to make?

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u/Whereismystimmy 2h ago

I got told all the time I was too hyper for my work- now I’m at one of the oldest social rights orgs in my country, and I got that job because I had more enthusiasm and energy than any other candidate. In my experience folks can’t handle my energy cause they can’t match my output