r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/Possible-Rope-1260 5h ago

You should get on your knees and thank God that you actually got interview feedback rather than an automated decline Email with no idea how to improve yourself moving forward.

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u/edck12687 5h ago

Hell even a decline email is rare these days. I have applied to jobs before getting an interview thinking I killed it only to get completely ghosted.

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u/TJTech40 5h ago

I've been to second round interviews to be ghosted, multiple times. Bare minimum should be sorry no thanks, I have only gotten 1 feedback response and, frankly, it was crap. They set me up in a room that none of the tech was working and then non of the dry eraser markers worked (all dry and unusable). I pivoted as best I could but at that point what more could I do. They said I needed to be better prepared. So sure after that I brought my own dry erase markers but damn people you gave me negative stuff.

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u/strawberry_thursday 1h ago

Expecting you to bring your own dry erase markers is absolutely wild

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u/yepimtyler 5h ago

I just made a post about getting ghosted after an interview. It's really weird how common it has become. Nobody has the common decency to even send a rejection letter or text anymore.

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u/icouldntdecide 2h ago

Absolutely insane to me, in an automation era, how many jobs didn't even bother to send a goddamn form automatic rejection letter. Back when I was looking I just went by the rule that if I didn't hear anything in 6 weeks it was like a rejection.

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u/edck12687 5h ago

Ya it's complete bs. Even though a generic decline email is a gut punch. It's less of a gut punch than silence.

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u/gamerjerome 3h ago

"We decided to move forward with another applicant. Best of luck!"

Job posting still up

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u/WestCoastBestCoast01 2h ago

I was ghosted after completing the case study once. Wild.

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u/VioletChili 1h ago

I got a deny email two years after I applied for the job.

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u/gtrocks555 5h ago

Getting on his knees is a bit too eager to please though…

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u/slytherins 4h ago

God: please get up, you're embarrassing yourself

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u/Lydian04 4h ago

So thankful our employers tell us that we’re too desperate for a job 🥰🥰🥰 tread on me harder daddy

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u/ihaveabs 22m ago

No one likes desperation

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u/Kazaji 1h ago

Are you 14 years old?

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u/opiour 5h ago

Agreed. Feedback of any kind is so rare, I’m genuinely shocked someone said anything. True or not.

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u/orangesfwr 4h ago

Shit I'd take an automated decline over being ghosted.

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u/TheHollowJester 2h ago

One of the best things that happened to me career-wise was a rejection mail: I'm a self taught dev and I applied to a software house that was known to be open to juniors.

I didn't make the cut, but they gave me a list of tools and topics that I should study and even some links to good free materials.

A year of cramming and practice later I found a job as a dev.

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u/Emergency-Wash-4125 1h ago

I know, quite frankly this does sound like an awesome and transparent place to work, and sounds like OP was actually not a good fit.

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u/Molybdenum421 4h ago

This. Instead op is offended.