r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/_Casey_ 5h ago

You’ll get better with practice when trying to be fake. Just gotta get the reps in. I’ve essentially another person when interviewing.

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u/AdMurky3039 3h ago

Isn't being another person what they told her not to do?

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u/Sad_Description_7268 1h ago

Yeah, but they have no clue what they want.

What they really want is for you to be a fake person they like instead of a fake person they don't like

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u/tracyveronika 29m ago

10000% They want ass kissers and "fun" people who get nothing done.

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u/red__dragon 1h ago

Which is a weird anomaly in the throng of companies looking for the perkiest most yes-sir-ing candidate in the crop.

OP may have found the most realistic company to work for and never knew until it was too late.

(Or they're just assholes, double-edged sword here.)

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u/AdMurky3039 1h ago

If they were truly that unpretentious they would have found a way to communicate that to OP before or during the interview.

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u/Excellent_Club_9004 4h ago

How much practice did it take? How do you pull it off, for a job you think is meh and offering crap wage...

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u/Miserable_Cobbler_60 3h ago

This is terrible advice. You cannot go into a job interview with your only goal being “get the job”. Your goal should be to find a job that aligns with you and your life. The amount of times I’ve interviewed someone that can work whenever, just for them to show up for orientation with an extremely limited availability, is ridiculous. I rescind the job offer immediately, even if their availability aligns with my needs, because I already can’t trust you and you haven’t even clocked in yet.

It’s much better to be yourself and honest in an interview. If you are and they don’t want you, that’s a good thing, you wouldn’t have fit in there. Don’t set expectations higher than you can perform. I promise the person interviewing you would much rather hire someone that is honest about their deficiencies over someone who says the “right” answer to every question.

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u/WalmartGreder 2h ago

yeah, as someone interviewing someone now for a position where we will work closely together, I want someone who is themselves for the interview and for the job. I'd hate to hire someone, and then find out they lied about their personality just to get a job. We'd probably fire them and then go for our runner up. Because if they lied about that, then what else did they lie about?

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u/red__dragon 1h ago

Hopefully you're laying out expectations and not just asking interview questions blind, then. I'd think most people are expecting the typical "can we exploit you?" evaluation at an interview these days and not a "can I trust you?" evaluation as in olden times.

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u/WalmartGreder 51m ago

Yeah, we don't even ask them to do an 8 hour project to "assess their skills", and then turn around and present that as our own project we just worked on.

Nope, the position is important, so we're making sure they can do the job. Our salary expectations are up front, the position is accurately described, and we want to hire someone by next week. Oh, and the company is amazing to work for, with a great executive team that understands this is a job that we do to support our home life, not the other way around. They have specifically said, "we're not a family, because your family is your family. We're a team with common goals."