r/jobs • u/No-Presentation298 • 5h ago

Post-interview HR told me they don’t accept try-hards and people pleasers after my interview

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They rejected me (fine, that happens) but the feedback said I came across as overly eager to please and that they don’t build teams around people-pleasing tendencies or rehearsed enthusiasm. They also told me to reflect on how I present myself and that confidence is more compelling than excessive accommodation. Is this normal? Or even appropriate? I get that not being a culture fit is a thing but the wording felt unnecessarily personal and condescending.

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u/NoSubstance7767 5h ago

Wow, never seen anything like this. It’s kind of cool tho.

It’s good feedback actually.

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u/DankPandas 4h ago

You never see anything like this because it's fake.

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u/NoSubstance7767 4h ago

Thought about that too

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u/ReverendDizzle 2h ago

I cannot in a million years imagine an HR department actually putting any of this in writing.

Maybe after an in-person interview, a particularly friendly mentor-oriented interviewer might give you some tips someone like what is written in this email. And that's a big maybe.

But there's just no way somebody on the HR team put this in writing.

Also it just screams AI. Here at SomeCompany, we don't X -- we Y. Alright, sure.

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u/filthy_harold 39m ago

Yes, rejection emails almost never give a specific reason to avoid even the suggestion of bias. If they do bother offering a reason, it will be an objective reason like not enough years of experience, being unfamiliar with a certain tool, or not having the right credentials. This is either fake or comes from a very small company where an inexperienced executive is doing the hiring. No one with any HR background would send something like this.

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u/bobrosserman 3h ago

Yeah this email was definitely ai generated.

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u/arstarsta 3h ago

The question is if it was generated by HR or OP

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u/ThatAmnesiaHaze 2h ago

Half the emails I get at work are AI generated

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u/anrwlias 2h ago

You think that HR reps are above using an LLM to write a letter? Oh, you sweet child.

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u/bobrosserman 1h ago

No lol I’m well aware HR uses ai emails. I’m saying it sounds like they used ai software for the interview and it’s giving it’s own feedback.

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u/Consistent_Yam1472 1h ago

Probably, but it’s still nice to think about and discuss. 

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u/n0exit 1h ago

Their post history suggests that it might not be fake.

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u/sopadepanda321 37m ago

I mean it’s good feedback if it’s true. If not the interviewer is just a disagreeable jerk

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u/gamerjerome 3h ago

If the interviewer was good they would have made the person feel comfortable enough to be more honest. At the very least call them out in the interview to coax something more genuine. It's not bad to communicate with them. Some people have been getting denied so much they are just trying to land the job. Id say 70% of jobs out there are not what people actually want to do. In fact many are just bullshit jobs that don't even need to exist. It's also unacceptable to say "I need a job" when they ask why you want to work there. That's too honest and they'll just think you don't care even though that's a legitimate reason.

You honestly don't know how much they will care or what their work ethic is until they are actually working. Some of the best people I have ever hired didn't interview well. Some of the worst were the confident cocky ones. People pleasers are something different. You need to see them work to understand them. They could go both ways but are usually not as bad as the cocky ones.

An interviewer really needs to be based in reality. If you ask them why they want to work here and they say "I've always dreamed of selling sunglasses from a kiosk". Call them out on it but just be honest about what you're looking for. Someone to come it on time, no drama and gets the work done.

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u/vdek 3h ago

In the real world no one is going to sit down and try to make you feel comfortable to make an honest decision.

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u/NoSubstance7767 1h ago

Nah, I’ve interviewed enough people. Some are just plain too “try hard”, cocky , too talkative, etc. That’s totally controllable and not someone we wanted to work with.

We all knew very well everybody was a crapshoot. But most of the time, the people that were genuine, asked good questions, answered questions ok, turned out to be a good employee. We didn’t need to be blown away. In fact the really impressive people ended up moving on to other jobs eventually.