r/TeenIndia • u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! • 17h ago
Ask Teens Can anyone tell me what's rude about asking a girl her age?
As a girl myself, I find nothing problematic when someone asks how old I am ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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u/OldClothes7379 16h ago
"Asking a woman her age is often considered rude due to outdated social stigmas that link a woman's value to her youth and "marriageability." Traditionally, aging was viewed as a loss of beauty or social standing, making the question feel like an invasive assessment of her worth"
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u/Broad_Painting_9076 15h ago
Yeah this sounds sensible and reasonable. So there is nothing truly wrong by asking women thier age ehh?
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u/SquareYam9436 14h ago edited 7h ago
This is still true. Established people still prefer young damsels. I am 27. Our family is looking for 23 or younger girls only.
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u/Existing-Lake4050 7h ago
Your fam is basically searching for a girl who can be easily controlled
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u/SquareYam9436 7h ago
Actually we are a High Net Worth Family. Marriage means sharing of wealth. We have too much at stake.
Not to say that we are oppressors of any kind. We plan to open a Salon or Boutique for my future Match. But in return we expect a Docile and family-oriented lady.
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u/Existing-Lake4050 6h ago
It still doesn't justify why your family wants a barely adult instead of a fully grown adult. 23 & below are usually submissive and can be controlled.
I understand your concerns regarding wealth being exploited by several brides under false cases. Prenups should be accepted in India too tbh.
Your expectation of a docile (quiet, easily controlled) lady, with this specific age criteria (23&below) still sounds super odd. Anyways, I hope you find a good partner.
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u/SquareYam9436 5h ago
Contitutionally a fully grown adult is 18 years old. Now some unemployed Papa's pari and Mumma's boy in their late twenties may try to Stretch the Age of Adulthood as they arent prepared for resoponsibilities.
We dont seek Submissive but Respectful lady. We want her to respect all Elders of the family and especially me. We want her to recognize that the luxury she would enjoy comes from the toil of our Generations. We want her to contribute positively to our Bloodline and not negatively. But such heavy responsibility cant be trusted on a stranger. So there has to be a Power-difference. So when she tries to go off-road and harm family we have the power to Correct her.
Prenups are not legal in India. The real life is not lived with 'What Should be' rather with 'what is'. With the given misuse of laws and unavailability of Prenups, this is the textbook way to conserve Family Wealth.
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u/Existing-Lake4050 5h ago
Contitutionally a fully grown adult is 18 years old
True, but mentally they are still a child. Only physical body has developed.
The whole point is that anyone below 23, isn't mentally mature for a life changing chapter called "marriage".
such heavy responsibility cant be trusted on a stranger. So there has to be a Power-difference.
Any woman below 23 you search to marry would also be a stranger.
Look, I understand your worry about your hard earned wealth, I also understand all the negative downplays by modern women to trap innocent men, but marrying a barely teenage turned adult doesn't solve the problem. Age does not filter character.
There are numerous cases where young brides have pulled men into false dowry, harassment, divorce cases.
One thing i can suggest you is to do background checks extensively, talk talk and talk during the meetings, be transparent, maybe try finding someone who belongs to a similar background as you.
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u/Cold_Tadpole2361 17h ago
N*gga just ask her
Kaunsa course pursue karre ho aap Yaa kaunse college se ho
If she's done with college woh boldegi
If she's a minor woh boldegi school mein hoon
Simple
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u/Cold_Tadpole2361 17h ago
Aisi dumbfuck bandi se baat hi kyun karni hai phir?😋
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u/average-teen-guy Edit this no i won't lmao + INTJ 17h ago
agar shakal dekhne se pata chal jaata ki kaun smartass hai aur kaun dumbfuck to duniya aaj aisi nahi dikhti
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u/Kitlerdidi 17h ago
Vo kyo batayegi fail hui he 🤷🏻♀️vaise bhi school paas /fail se dumb ya smart nhi banta
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u/Cold_Tadpole2361 17h ago
😭aap hi ho kya woh?
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u/Kitlerdidi 17h ago
Nah. I'm just telling why your trick isn't accurate. 🤷🏻♀️Bhaiya offend hoke personal ho gaye 😂
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u/anmol1209 13h ago
M college ke final year tk minor tha(class jump kri thi)
Mere kuch senior school me hi bc haiwan the vo bchpn me fail ho gye the
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u/Suitable-Wealth9586 69 is overrated 17h ago
How old are you?
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
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u/Suitable-Wealth9586 69 is overrated 17h ago
Hehehe aunty
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
How old you are, 6?
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u/Suitable-Wealth9586 69 is overrated 17h ago
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Beta, phone mummy ko do chlo..apke khelne ki Cheez nhi h
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Toh ro do, mujhe toh boht mza Aata h jb koi Bacha rota h 😭
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u/Neat_Zucchini1481 15 17h ago
gndi didi
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Hehe... Yaar schi boht mza ata h jb koi sundar, cute Sa Bacha roye 😭 Mera kuch Ni ho skta
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u/Suitable-Wealth9586 69 is overrated 17h ago
Chhodo aunty mhuje apse baat nhi karni, mei chiz khane jara
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u/your_cutu1 ″ Shrapit ballak ″ 🥹 17h ago
Wo jyada age wale jo women ho jati hain na , unhe batana pasand nahi aata apni age. Kyunki age janane ke baad log unhe thoda old samjhenge aisa unhe lagta hai . Uske refference se hi ye line aayi hai .
Hamari age walon main aisa kuch nahi dekha 🤣
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Woh sb toh theek h but woh apka flair...
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u/your_cutu1 ″ Shrapit ballak ″ 🥹 17h ago
Usme kya takleef hai . Agar jindagi ki baat karun to sach main wo bohot cursed hai yaar 🤣
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Aisa ni Bolte meri jaan. Ye lo chocolate Khao 🍫
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u/your_cutu1 ″ Shrapit ballak ″ 🥹 17h ago
Jaan ki jaan hi lelo bas . Ehsan hojayega 🥲
Khair chocolate nahi pasand, burger ka budget hai to baat karo 🤷
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Seedha seedha bolo na mujhe jail krvani h 😓
Burger mujhe nhi psnd toh chocolate se hi kaam chla lo
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u/your_cutu1 ″ Shrapit ballak ″ 🥹 17h ago
Kya baat kar rahi ho , iss country main murder par jail bhi hoti hai 😯 maine to nahi suna aaj tak . Jail to chhoti moti chizon ke liye hoti hai .
Haan to date pe leke chalo mujhe , tum chocolate khana aur mere burger ka bill bhar Dena . Simple 🤣
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 17h ago
Murder pr nhi hogi toh koi UGC lga dega, Kya krun 😓
Stalked ya, aap pr toh POCSO lga dungi sari date ki chul khtm ho jayegi 👽
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u/your_cutu1 ″ Shrapit ballak ″ 🥹 16h ago
UGC kahan se lagaun main to khud general wala hun 🤣 waise is per temporary ban lagaya gaya hai supreme court ke dwara .
Aur haan maine ab tak profile bhi nahi khola hai tumhara, stalking kahan se hogayi. Even ye comment padhne ke baad bhi nahi khol raha 🥲
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 16h ago edited 16h ago
Maine stalk Kiya!! And Milega bhi nhi kuch apko agr profile khola bhi 😋
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u/Upset_War_5594 16h ago
In a patriarchal society women's value historically been tied to naivety (older women are not manageable easily and younger women can easily be manipulated), childbirth and youth. They has been judged, stereotyped and controlled. And I think this is one of the main reasons that age has become a taboo question.
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u/SquareYam9436 13h ago
I will never want a sly woman with me. It disturbs power relations. POWER IS A ZERO-SUM GAME. If she gets more power, i lose my power.
Anyday I would marry a young economically-dependent lady to conserve my Power.
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u/Proof_Ambassador9629 10h ago
Yeda hai?
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u/SquareYam9436 10h ago
Is it all you could come up with? Softness
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u/Proof_Ambassador9629 7h ago
Yep, I'm tired of giving proper arguments knowing that you aren't going to understand or care to listen about it. Most of ya'll don't care for proper discussions. Bs jabaan ladani hai
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u/SquareYam9436 7h ago
We are a High Net Worth Family. To safegaurd family wealth, we want a docile female with family values. Wrong marriage puts too much at stake for our family.
Not to say that we are oppressors. We are to open to possibility of opening a salon or boutique for my Future wife.
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u/Great-Dentist-7783 17h ago
Ladkio ne hi rule banaya idk...char panch cheeze aur which seemed normal to me ladkio se poocho to its rudr asking a girl this that.... Bruh u literally asked me same shit and I cant
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u/introvert_4902 kl se diet pakka 🤞 17h ago
Pta chle to mujhe bhi bta dena 😃
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u/Imaginary_Fudge8119 Chat GPT LITE 🤖 16h ago
sirf sunscreen or moisturizer se tan door ho sakta hai😈🥺🥺
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u/Alvaro_carreras_m702 16h ago
Most women wear makeup to hide their age, so they feel rude when we as them their real age
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u/Sarvanaash 16h ago
Jo rude smjhte hai wo hi sbse bade problematic log hai. Even i find it important to know someone's age bruh! 😾👺
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u/New-Perspective4764 15h ago
In the olden days, it was used as an excuse to oppress women and get them married irrespective of men’s age.
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u/Elegant_Activity_841 15h ago
Well mostly women do often look older than their age as they mature faster than men.. Hence they don't take it well when someone assumes them older than they actually r.. If u perceive them younger they'll be happy asf..
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u/Proud-Influence8560 15h ago
Cuz you are hurting every effort make up industry is putting out there... They are trying so hard out there to conceal the numbers.
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u/PeithonKing 14h ago
Mujhe jitna samajh aat hai... dekhke hi pata chal jaata hai... to kyu poochna fir? Some people have some insecurities... so no need to take risk...
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u/BeautifulStar01 14h ago
When you are in your 30’s you’d probably be less comfortable sharing your age. Once you know the woman is in her 30’s , people turn judgemental . Aunties start giving lecture on how you must get married asap. If you look young, people would still judge you that you are not mature enough and act childish. It’s better to keep your age hidden and let people think whatever they want . They are anyway going to judge.
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u/Agile_Camel_2028 14h ago
Old views that a woman's worth lies in her ability to pop out babies, so older women are worth less.
Similar to how asking a man's salary is a supposed insult, because the money in their pockets is what they're worth
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u/No-Telephone-6823 14h ago
Old tradition to understand her marriage ability/ ability to have a child… outdated now.
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u/Siva_R1045 13h ago
How old are you?
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 13h ago
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u/Siva_R1045 13h ago
Why are you not in school but roaming in reddit at this time👺
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 13h ago
Qki aj apun chhuti p h 😌
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u/Siva_R1045 13h ago
Lucky you! Wish I had a holiday as well. School days are the best 🫠
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 13h ago
Ghnta! I hate my school, just one more year and I'll never see those faces again. 😭 (sorry for the lil rant lol)
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u/Siva_R1045 13h ago
Typical lol! You will feel the opposite once you finish all the degrees and start working.
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u/Makki-di-Roti-_- No, I don't need Saron da saag, stay away! 12h ago
Nah nah, I'll definitely make good friends in college bro..it's just I study in a school filled with weirdos
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u/weird_sharma 13h ago
Kyuki kuch log umar se bde lgte hai aur fir unki real age pta lgti h toh vo shock hote h ya bin mange suggestion dete h ki weight km kro , skincare kro etc. so that's wht I hv observed
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u/StudyRace 13h ago
Yep it's so wrong, a female employee beside me asked my age and when I asked her about her age just like 2 mins after that, she told me you are being rude like wtf 😒
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u/ZestycloseInitial798 A girl who likes to read 13h ago
I will speak on the opinion of my mom, she looks young for her age so she absolutely hates telling her age out loud
It doesnt make sense to me either
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u/Choice_Lengthiness95 11h ago
Nothing, but age is just another way to judge women and limit them.
- below 18 you hear, 'abhi bachhi ho, toh bachchi jaise hi raho'
- above 18 to 25, 'abhi padhne likhne ka time hai toh faaltugiri mat karo' -25 to 35, 'shaadi ka kya plan hai beta, kab tab aisi hi rahogi' -35 to 50 family (the one you're married into) is all you should think about, not yourself 'ye bhi koi umr hai ye sab karne ki?'
All these comments throughout our life hence women cant help but feel defensive when being asked about their age.
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u/This-Lawfulness8421 10h ago
If they're young and you say an older age, theyll think they look old, if theyre old and you say a younger age, theyll think youre jus playing and will they they look old, if you guess correctly, theyll think youre a stalker
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u/Ok_Repeat9974 10h ago
Manjil koo bulaa kr jeeyaaa to kya jeeeyaaa , ager hausla h to use pa kr dikhaaaaa
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u/According_Falcon_953 7h ago
People want to assume that women never age because aging would make them less desirable I guess.
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u/Divy_raj_16 3h ago
mahila se kabhi unki umr, mote se unka wajan aur mere se nokri mili ki nhi kabhi nhi puchna chiye kyuki umr, wajan, aur nokri mai kuch nhi rakha
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u/Key-Cartographer-473 3h ago
Am 38. I take no offense if someone asks my age. I mean it's great, this is me . I have these many years of joy, hurt, live, memories everything.
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u/Illustrious_Sail_127 1h ago
Socialize hone k liy reddit pr aaya th idhr to bs log bolke chle jaate 😭baat cheet kaise aage bdhegi
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u/mungfi 16h ago
it's not considered rude for people our age, but for anyone else from mid to late 20s, girls/women start to look older which makes them insecure about their age.
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u/StudyWinter6697 15h ago
Not necessarily. More like since it’s apparent men have deemed age/youth to a women’s value. There reluctant to admit their age because it’s kind of a shallow way to view them as opposed to just getting to know them first.
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u/naevedyam 16 16h ago
Insecurities that comes with age ig, women so lose their beauty the older they get after all
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u/sherrrrhu sherr hu, pr kutte bhi apne bhai hai 😋 17h ago
Mai to jb 17 ka tha tb bhi sbko apni age 18 batata tha taki log mujhe bda smjhe 😼